The
(King James 1611, Bible-Believing)
Christian Family Page



What you will read on this page--

*** A NOTE ABOUT DEPRESSION ***

Another excerpt from interlude52.htm--

Depression is not a compulsive disorder, but the simple principle of living the work lifestyle is critically important for those who experience depression. Fornication, whoredom, and naked movies (pornography) have torn up whole families, but I can testify that the tough years can be fruitful years. Do not focus on what you do not have in this life. Focus on what you have and what you can do in this life while you are here.

If you have children, they are practically your number one concern. They need YOU. You may be tired and heavy and listless, but get up any way and go on that walk and build up your children's bone density. Identify wild edibles together. Teach them God's word and his requirements of man. Love your children and care for them, they need YOU. Time spent with them is time well spent. Those narrow shoulders of theirs are young and tender. Be tender, pitiful, and kind. Let your heart be soft, don't let the woes crowd out love and kindness, seek out loving ways and let your eyes be holden with love. Learn how to do this by doing it. Keep on doing this and don't stop. When they don't do what is right, correct them and seek reconciliation, keeping the bond of unity--let not the sun go down upon your wrath. See our series on Relaxed Christian Parenting and one of its articles, How to win your child's heart.

"Young people don't need good teachers as much as they need ministers with a pastor's heart [THIS IS TALKING ABOUT PARENTS--FATHERS AND MOTHERS]. They need to know that they are cared for before anything else."

You may want to sleep your life away, but get up anyway and do what needs to be done. Your mind may be foggy and forgetful, but concentrate on the task in front of you, take no thought for the morrow, don't focus on the past. You will see your own sort of life emerge, a productive one and you will find yourself fitting into it hardly thinking on what is not going right.

In the midst of the evils of this present world, I personally have found much pleasure in looking at a montage of dozens of large animal photographs that I cut out of magazines and mounted on kraft paper and hung across a wall. When I look at it, I marvel at God's power and creativity. I also derive much pleasure from being outdoors and working in the yard. When I had very deep and heavy sorrow to where I was almost paralyzed by it, God called me outside where I looked at the flowers and planted and landscaped. I could not think about too much. My mind was like, "Look at the pretty flowers," and that was about all I could think. It was during this time that I came to know God as my nurse.

Psalms 41:3 The LORD will strengthen him upon the bed of languishing: thou wilt make all his bed in his sickness.

When I was at my lowest weakest point, I did not go to the seventh-floor mental ward and I did not go on any drugs and I did not go to a psychiatrist--it was God my Father that stepped in and took care of me in my extreme sickness, and he did it in the most pleasant, gentle, understanding way. God is a God that is nigh unto his people and he will continue to be there for his people even through all the pain and tears and loneliness. You may be very sad and heavy and even frustrated at times. Talk to God your Father about this because he can help you and counsel you and heal you in even the most trying of circumstances.

Psalms 147:3 He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

And always read God's word every day and let it break up the hard casing that always seeks to encase and harden the heart.

*** A CHANGED LIFE IS A TWO-PART PROCESS ***

A changed life is a two-part process of (1) stopping and (2) starting. (1) Stop doing those things that displease the Lord--like watching tv and being lazy and wasting time. Those with a bad habit that needs to be broken may wish to see The Deliverance Series (2) Start doing what pleases the Lord. Look around. Make homecooked meals. Get your affairs in order and get out of debt, make your own household repairs, build the old way--get a toolbox and some hand tools (we all need to know how to work a hammer), start a garden out of which you can grow a vegetable or two (tomatoes and chard are easy to grow in pots).

If you are saved and this information speaks to you, start trying and God will be with you and will help you and show you different things that you can do.

The Christian life

The Christian life is a spiritual and an heavenly life. It is different than the old way that we used to live. The Christian's conversation is not of earth, it is of heaven (see Philippians 3:20). When a man has been washed in the blood, his OLD MAN man and his corruption is DEAD (see ALL of Romans chapters 6, 7, and 8) AND he is become a NEW creature (II Cor 5:17), the workmanship of God himself (Eph 2:10). NOW he is spiritual. The riches of the grace of God are now ours that we may magnify the name and doctrine of Jesus Christ. What is grace? Grace is divine favour, influence, and empowerment--all that God may be glorified for his excellent greatness. It is real. The Christian can do nothing on his own. Lord will help us to live upright, sanctified, consecrated lives.

When we were sinners, we trafficked in iniquity and debauchery but NOW that we are Christians, the righteousness of God is to pervade OUR WHOLE LIFE. Our families should REFLECT the glory of God. Husband and wife are joint heirs of the grace of life, our children holy and treated as an heritage of the Lord.

BUT THERE'S A PROBLEM.

It is rare to see the above situation. As with many precepts, the old landmarks on how to be a family have been removed. Then again, many professed Christians don't even know what the gospel is--they are not even a Christian family, but think that they are. They think that you mumble a prayer and keep on living as you always did. They are antinomians. Some even derisively state that obeying the Lord is a work and not part of the gospel. They call that Lordship Salvation. If Jesus is not your Lord, he is not your Saviour.

Those that are still stuck to the first Adam, may wish to visit our How to Get to Heaven article. Today's false gospel offers a god that will help you with YOUR plans instead of the true God Who requires that you SERVE HIM with your spirit in the gospel of His Son.

*** SEEK PERSONAL CONSECRATION ***

Thriving is not about what you do not have. It is about consecrating and dedicating everything that you have to the Lord, giving him everything--you, your couch, your grass, etc. Live holily and separate from evil. Leave the television and take on the work lifestyle, working six days and resting on the seventh day like God did on the seventh day of creation (please do not join the cult of Seventh Day Adventism founded by false prophetess Ellen White).

The article, Christians Are On the Earth to Serve the Lord is a call to seek personal consecration unto God. "We put off the old man and his desperate, wicked deeds (like watching television) and we start putting on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him. We start serving the Lord. Even when a Christian woman is washing the dishes and taking care of her children she is doing sanctified work--she is fulfilling the scriptures; women are to be keepers at home. When we consecrate ourselves and our things (house, apartment, furniture, grass, etc.), daily living takes on a new dimension."

*** FOR THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED AND MAY HAVE STRUGGLES ***

For those who have been abused, there are encouraging testimonies, articles, and/or abstracts forthcoming, Lord willing. This section is especially here for those who are still suffering. For now, I invite you to see our Deliverance Series because it has precepts in it that have helped me a lot. Although the Series is for those who have habits that they wish to break, I believe that it contains items that can help you. Update: Our article One Monkey contains a strong word for those that have been abused.

Of whom a man is overcome, of the same is he brought into bondage. We can be overcome with sorrow for years on end, being sad and bound up, when, in actuality, as children of God, liberty and freedom is our birthright. We may have issues, but when we seek God in accordance with his word, he comes in and does that invisible part (and yes, there is an invisible part), and victory is ours. Deliverance from bondage, for the Christian, is not a complex process and it does not take a long time to know when you are on the right track. Be calm in your spirit, know the plan, pray, and go forward. When you hear things like, "You need to clean up and organize your home" or "You need to live the work lifestyle" or "Turn off the television" or "Take a walk" may you not be like Naaman the Syrian in 2 Kings 5:1-19 thinking that these things are too simple. Yes, these are simple things, but very important things. When Naamam got on board with the plan, he was healed of his leprosy.

An excerpt from our index page--

Once you get saved, come up out of that stuffed grave that you've been buried in (bad habits, bad ways, television, etc.), and let the healing begin. Important note: The deliverance and healing is not just for the sinners (our Deliverance Series is based on the deliverance that I received from my own sins), it is also for those who have been hurt and abused and want to walk away from the pain, anger, helplessness, bitterness, remorse, guilt (the victim is not to blame--the perpetrator is to blame.), etc. The Lord can help us to move on in life in a powerful way. There is work to do.

*** THIS PAGE IS FOR ALL CHRISTIANS--WHETHER UNMARRIED OR MARRIED ***

Let not the eunuch say, "Behold I am a dry tree." Being married is not the culmination of the Christian life, although some churches are endlessly circling around family issues while unmarried people and the heart of the truth concerning these last days are on the outside and out of their reach. If you use your unmarried life well, you can be a mighty one in the earth without the distractions attending married people (I Corinthians 7:32-34). You can be calm in your spirit and start arranging your life and home step by step while reading, working, praying, resting, etc. As one goes forward, the Lord helps him to know what he should be doing--including things people may not think of--like organizing. I can remember saying one time, "You have to prepare for a blessing" and then I proceeded to organize and straighten up and something big did come up. The home tasks, etc. found on this webpage apply to all. We would all do well to consider human marriage in light of our relationship with Christ (see Ephesians 5 concerning this great mystery).

This Christian Family Page is for all Christians--whether unmarried or married. We are a family. Together we form one body, the body of Christ--and holiness is the law of the house. We, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood.

I Peter 1:13 Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;

14 As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance:

15 But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;

16 Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.

We are not here on this earth to languish, we are here to thrive and serve the Lord. The Bible, prayer, work, love, holiness, and separation from evil are elements of the Christian lifestyle.


Index of Articles

~ Relaxed Christian Parenting

"Young people don't need good teachers as much as they need ministers with a pastor's heart
[this is talking about parents--fathers and mothers].
They need to know that they are cared for before anything else."

~ Fathers
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it (Eph 5:25). And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (I Cor 6:4). Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged (Col 3:21).






~ Mothers
Proverbs 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

~ Children
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 6:1, 4 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Psalm 127:3 For, Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

Psalm 127:4-5 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. HAPPY is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall NOT be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate."

~ Education

~ Marriage
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

~ Basic Home Skills

~ Food
Make homecooked nutritious meals--chicken, spaghetti, pot roast, potatoes, rice, oatmeal, beans, fish, vegetables, fruits, nuts, etc.; drink water, milk, homemade drinks; real butter instead of margarine. Use the stove instead of the radiation/microwave oven. Food is important in our lives in many ways. Even the simplest gruel or pot of tea made over a fire (even if the fire is made outside on the grill) can create a homey atmosphere. Food can also help provide a festive background on special occasions. The rich man in Luke 16:19-31 fared sumptuously every day. It is possible that a person can make a lifestyle out of pleasing the flesh, instead of just working and allowing food (and other things) to just have their proper place. Feed me with food convenient for me, lest I be full, and deny thee, and say, Who is the LORD? or lest I be poor, and steal, and take the name of my God in vain (Proverbs 30:9). Esau sold his birthright for morsel of meat (Genesis 25:29-34; Hebrews 12:16). Adam and Eve ate the fruit that they were not supposed to eat (Genesis 3:1-24). Many people buy a lot of prepackaged foods. We go to school but often we do not learn how to cook. Those with weight issues may wish to see, How to Lose Weight.

~ Aging
Families are now very spread and contact with grandparents is often not frequent. Information on the aging process can be gathered and discussed in preparation for the days to come. Children can help their parents should their parents become infirm. May all endeavor to stay healthy and fit until the end of their days--working, thinking properly, serving, exercising, eating properly, etc.

~ Things to Do Together

~ Finding and making a Christian culture for your home

~ The family is under attack

~ The problem with us

Ye that love the Lord, hate evil...
(Psalm 97:10)






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