COMPLAISANCE

In researching words for some translation work, I came across entries in the Webster's 1828 Dictionary (unmanly, unman, etc.). These entries arrested my attention and I stopped the translation work for the present time to consider other things. The following represents another train of thought that came as I continued my meditations. These are excerpts from Webster's Dictionary (1828, 1913--http://www.1828-dictionary.com/d/search/word,complaisance) [emphases ours, bracketed comments ours]--

COMPLAISANCE, n.

1. A pleasing deportment; courtesy; that manner of address and behavior in social intercourse which gives pleasure; civility; obliging condescension; kind and affable reception and treatment of guests; exterior acts of civility; as, the gentleman received us with complaisance.

2. Condescension; obliging compliance with the wishes or humors of others.

3. Desire of pleasing; disposition to oblige; the principle for the act. Your complaisance will not permit your guests to be incommoded.

1913 Definition--

COMPLAISANCE n. [F. complaisance. See Complaisant, and cf. Complacence.]

Disposition to please or oblige; obliging compliance with the wishes of others; a deportment indicative of a desire to please; courtesy; civility. [...]

They strive with their own hearts and keep them down,
In complaisance to all the fools in town.
Young.




HU'MOR, n. [L. from humeo, to be moist.] 4. That quality of the imagination which gives to ideas a wild or fantastic turn, and tends to excite laughter or mirth by ludicrous images or representations. Humor...is always agreeable. Wit, directed against folly, often offends by its severity; humor makes a man ashamed of his follies, without exciting his resentment. Humor may be employed solely to raise mirth and render conversation pleasant, or it may contain a delicate kind of satire.


Mark 7:20 And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man.

Mark 7:21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders,

Mark 7:22 Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness:

Mark 7:23 All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.

Ephesians 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Ephesians 5:4 Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.


WIT, n. [See the verb and Wise.]

1. Primarily, the intellect; the understanding or mental powers.

Will puts in practice what the wit deviseth.
For wit and power their last endeavors bend t' outshine each other.

6. Sense; judgment.

He wants not wit the danger to decline.

7. Faculty of the mind.

8. Wits, in the plural, soundness of mind; intellect not disordered; sound mind.

9. Power of invention; contrivance; ingenuity. He was at his wits end.


The following is excerpted from the 1828 definition of humor, n.--

...Wit, directed against folly, often offends by its severity...

Silence is oftentimes a proper response.
Proverbs 17:27 He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit.

Proverbs 17:28 Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.


RESERVE, v.t. rezerv'. [L. reservo; re and servo, to keep.]

1. To keep in store for future or other use; to withhold from present use for another purpose. The farmer sells his corn, reserving only what is necessary for his family.

Hast thou seen the treasures of hail, which I have reserved against the day of trouble? Job 38.

[I recently foolishly used levity/foolishness and afterwards I was so tired that I hardly had energy to do anything else and wondered how my poor daughter fared in the aftermath of my folly--and she was tired, too. Someone once told me, "Sin makes you weak." My power and energy is to be reserved for right things, not evil things. In breaches of spirit like foolishness and talking too much, we offend God and curse men as we bring forth evil into this world. The breaches must be stopped--and talking too much is a big one. Talking too much is like a compulsive disorder that needs deliverance because the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. (ref. James 3). We are in a nation of talkers but our lives do not consist of reacting to the accidents of life. From, "Accidents"--

...The main design [of life] is me and God reconciled and me communicating with him constantly and being aware of his will for my life and making decisions based on that inner communion and doing according to those decisions.

...Having considered these things, I found myself in the aftermath of these meditations with my hands in a prayer position in front of my chest at certain times almost as if I were holding myself back and focusing on my inner life and leaving the outer outer. I found myself in the first stages of living a life of not simply reacting to the outside but rather living a life within constantly determining what I should be doing and then going about doing it. An example--I think on the inside about how I am to be a keeper at home (ref. Titus 2:5) and then set about cooking a meal for my family's nourishment. I stay inside and touch out.

When I am in the highways and byways of life, I can--and should--remain in that inner life with God communicating with him and making right decisions moment by moment. In my life, I have been delivered from things, hard things by God's grace. It may have been hard at first, but in response to my feeble efforts, God came in and took over and I looked around and saw that I was delivered. We just must be serious and set about getting the Canaanite out of the land--that inner land where those evil ways exist. Cast out whatever needs to go and set boundaries and limits and don't cross them. It does not take long to perceive God's grace helping me once I've gotten serious.]

2. To keep; to hold; to retain.

Will he reserve his anger for ever? Jer. 3.

3. To lay up and keep for a future time. 2 Peter 2.

Reserve your kind looks and language for private hours.

RESERVE, n. rezerv'.

1. That which is kept for other or future use; that which is retained from present use or disposal. ....

2. Something in the mind withheld from disclosure. However any one may concur in the general scheme, it is still with certain reserves and deviations.

3. Exception; something withheld.

Is knowledge so despis'd? or envy, or what reserve forbids to taste?

4. Exception in favor.

Each has some darling lust, which pleads for a reserve.

5. Restraint of freedom in words or actions; backwardness; caution in personal behavior. Reserve may proceed from modesty, bashfulness, prudence, prudery or sullenness. ...

6. In law, reservation. In reserve, in store; in keeping for other or future use. He has large quantities of wheat in reserve. He has evidence or arguments in reserve. Body of reserve, in military affairs, the third or last line of an army drawn up for battle, reserved to sustain the other lines as occasion may require; a body of troops kept for an exigency.

1913 Definition--

Reserve (reserve) v. t. [F. ré]server, L. reservare, reservatum; pref. re- re- + servare to keep. See Serve

1. To keep back; to retain; not to deliver, make over, or disclose.

2. Hence, to keep in store for future or special use; to withhold from present use for another purpose or time; to keep; to retain. Gen. xxvii. 35.

Hast thou seen the treasures of the hail, which I have reserved against the time of trouble? Job xxxviii. 22,23.

Reserve your kind looks and language for private hours. Swift.

3. To make an exception of; to except.
[R.]

4. The act of reserving, or keeping back; reservation.

However any one may concur in the general scheme, it is still with certain reserves and deviations. Addison.

5.That which is reserved, or kept back, as for future use. ...

Syn. -- Reservation; retention; limitation; backwardness; reservedness; coldness; restraint; shyness; coyness; modesty.


MOD'ESTY, n. [L. modestia.] That lowly temper which accompanies a moderate estimate of one's own worth and importance. This temper when natural, springs in some measure from timidity, and in young and inexperienced persons, is allied to bashfulness and diffidence. In persons who have seen the world, and lost their natural timidity, modesty springs no less from principle than from feeling, and is manifested by retiring, unobtrusive manners, assuming less to itself than others are willing to yield, and conceding to others all due honor and respect, or even more than they expect or require.

2. Modesty, as an act or series of acts, consists in humble, unobtrusive deportment, as opposed to extreme boldness, forwardness, arrogance, presumption, audacity or impudence. Thus we say, the petitioner urged his claims with modesty; the speaker addressed the audience with modesty.

3. Moderation; decency.

4. In females, modesty has the like character as in males; but the word is used also as synonymous with chastity, or purity of manners. In this sense, modesty results from purity of mind, or from the fear of disgrace and ignominy fortified by education and principle. Unaffected modesty is the sweetest charm of female excellence, the richest gem in the diadem of their honor.

1913 Definition--

Modesty (modesty) n.

[L. modestia: cf. F. modestie. See Modest.]

1. The quality or state of being modest; that lowly temper which accompanies a moderate estimate of one's own worth and importance; absence of self-assertion, arrogance, and presumption; humility respecting one's own merit.

2. Natural delicacy or shame regarding personal charms and the sexual relation; purity of thought and manners; due regard for propriety in speech or action. [...]

Modesty piece, a narrow piece of lace worn by women over the bosom. [Obs.] Addison.

Syn. -- Bashfulness; humility; diffidence; shyness. See Bashfulness, and Humility.


DIFFIDENCE, n. [L., to trust. See Faith.]

1. Distrust; want of confidence; any doubt of the power, ability or disposition of others. It is said there was a general diffidence of the strength and resources of the nation, and of the sincerity of the king.

2. More generally, distrust of ones self; want of confidence in our own power, competency, correctness or wisdom; a doubt respecting some personal qualification. We speak or write with diffidence, when we doubt our ability to speak or write correctly or to the satisfaction of others. The effect of diffidence is some degree of reserve, modesty, timidity or bashfulness. Hence,

3. Modest reserve; a moderate degree of timidity or bashfulness; as, he addressed the audience or the prince with diffidence.

1913 Definition--

Diffidence (diffidence) n.

[L. diffidentia.]

1. The state of being diffident; distrust; want of confidence; doubt of the power, ability, or disposition of others.
[Archaic] [...]

2. Distrust of one's self or one's own powers; lack of self-reliance; modesty; modest reserve; bashfulness.

It is good to speak on such questions with diffidence. Macaulay.

An Englishman's habitual diffidence and awkwardness of address. W. Irving.

Syn. -- Humility; bashfulness; distrust; suspicion; doubt; fear; timidity; apprehension; hesitation. See Humility, and Bashfulness.


HU'MOR, v.t. To gratify by yielding to particular inclination, humor, wish or desire; to indulge by compliance. We sometimes humor children to their injury or ruin. The sick, the infirm, and the aged often require to be humored.

1. To suit; to indulge; to favor by imposing no restraint, and rather contributing to promote by occasional aids [like encouraging the continuation of a wrong direction with a smile or a nodding of the head?]. We say, an actor humors his part, or the piece. It is my part to invent, and that of the musicians to humor that invention.

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